Comments on: Assumptions and Social Media

By: Bryan

Bryan — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 08:53:09 +0000

Hi Lisa, I’m a new reader and like your content and style.

I agree with your sentiments here, but I believe that the good outweighs the bad. I’ll put up with those who make incorrect assumptions and some rudeness, for the benefit of sometimes restarting an old friendship, or becoming better friend with an interesting person, who was only an acquaintance.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 17:08:36 +0000

Shauna and Ophelia,

WOW! Thank you for sharing your experiences! It is something I never thought about till recently and wanted to see if what others have experienced in their social media lives.

By: Ophelia

Ophelia — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 17:01:40 +0000

I believe that everyone assumes you have changed as much as they have. Some not as much, some 180˚. We may have a memory of you from 14 years ago, but we equate it with the person we were 14 years ago as well. I don’t assume anyone I’ve come back into contact with as unchanged. I just remember them as they were before, but I know they have moved forward in their life and I want to know all about it, which is why I probably contacted them. If I didn’t want to know, I would’ve left that memory intact.

As for social media etiquette, share only what you would like your mother to know. :O)

By: Shauna

Shauna — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 17:00:17 +0000

I run into this on many levels. First there’s the high school friends who associate me with the rest of my family (that I’m pretty far removed from at this point), then there’s the rowdy party crowd in the local music scene, and finally the conservative professional crowd from my before-self-employed days. All have their assumptions and even judgments about who I am and what I do. It’s frustrating to face and makes it difficult to continue nurturing these “friendships”. At the end of the day I usually sit back, do my best to be accessible and transparent, and those that don’t like what I put forth, can move along. I’m blessed to have a few people in my life who see and accept all sides of me and celebrate my success.